Dealing with Negative People

Summary of the video:

1. Constantly removing people who irk you from your life is not a magic pill to solve your problem. Rather, it reveals that you still need to master your mind.
2. Understand that negative people have a right to their own perspective and that their circumstances moulded them into who they are today.
3. They are fully responsible for their own problems and actions, not you. It is not your responsibility to fix their problems, even if they come to you for advice, and especially if they have no intention to change or often come up with excuses not to resolve their issues. You may offer your advice, but it is ultimately up to them to act on it. You decide how much of the process you want to participate in.
   
   Say, "Take my advice, and do as you wish." Because they will.
   
4. Offer them the responsibility. Ask when appropriate, "What have you tried? What haven't you tried? What are your options? What do you think you can do about it?"
5. Adjust your expectations and accept them for who they are. It is simply them being them.
6. When faced with negativity, you own the power and control to redirect the conversation to something positive. You can say, "I can imagine that must have been frustrating for you. What else have you been up to today? Tell me about the rest of your day." or "Tell me what went well today. / Tell me what you did that you were happy about. / Tell me what good came from [the situation]."
7. The last resort: Use the Grey Rock method - say nothing or respond with a 'Huh.' or 'Ok.' Don't add anything else to the conversation.